Ashton Deroy writes: This blog is about one of those nagging questions I have been asking myself since I was 18 and the answer is always different. It has gotten to the point where the answer almost sounds unimportant. “What do I want to do when I am done college?” As I talk about in my post If we don’t change this I will die… I talk about how worried I am about keeping my head above water!
Lets get this straight. I have been in the new graduate role before. What do I know from this? I know that Social Media Marketing is a fictional job. Or it is so rare, that I will not be sending out special resumes for it. I know that web administrator is a service I will struggle to sell in Quinte West & Belleville Ontario because people have no idea what I do & why they need me. I figure this time around I will try to find real jobs, where I use my real appeals?
What do I want to do when I am done college? I want to be with my partner when I am done college. That is what I want to do more than anything else. I love my relationship & my family. There was a time on this blog when I would of wrote down an incredibly ambitious career goal that I would make the center of the dart board of my life.
What have I done in the past? Here is the summary of my background. I have a background in Advertising, Market Research & Telecom. Whatever I do, it has to fit in to my current goals. Which is to take care of my family & better my survival. I love my boyfriend Kaylib Drury. I think he is the first boyfriend who has ever really understood me.
So if the job you are are offering is an Unpredictable schedule with insanely high demands. I have 0 interest. People will have questions about my call center history & short term employment experience. Let me summarize that by saying I am not looking for a lifestyle, I rather enjoy mine. People might pause at my short term experience at Hinduja Global Solutions. To that my reply is, “They had lifestyle expectations that were exchanged with no job security, unpredictable scheduling & limited perks.” It was in no one’s best interest to continue on this road. For one the company thinks their employment offer is adequate and accommodating enough. It is not! For me the job was an insanely high demand on my life that I was exchanging for a pay check.
What am I looking for? I am looking for a job. 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week with some wiggle room. I am available Monday to Saturday and require 2 consecutive days off for quality of life reasons. Not for nothing but telecom has costed me too much of my life. At my age to have had high blood pressure & 2 nervous breakdowns. I am very serious about self-care now!
One thing I learned from my time in Manufacturing? I don’t need to fall in love with a job in order for things to run smoothly. I liked working for Manpower for Hawkins Cheesies. However I just need an employer that understands that you can’t buy my entire life. At Hawkins Cheesies they understood there was time for family & time for work.
I listened to Be Obsessed or Be Average
Whilst I was captured by the charisma of the man. I realized Obsessed culture is more than just unhelpful. It literally summarizes the problems with most modern day employers! Employees burn out, Employers use no compromise strategies and there is no consideration for the long term welfare of the stakeholders. I also agree with the assertion that while yes this book will change you. I believe the result from the book is creating a delusional man ready to risk it all, use blind determinism & use a family second life strategy. I choose average, because the obsessed are sick. Also his success secret? “Own property.” It is not that difficult.
When I am done college I want to make a better life for my family. I don’t want an unpredictable schedule, or to create a goal that drives me off the deep end. My education, experience & drive is valuable to any employer. I also believe I have the self-respect and self-actualization to say to an employer that I like my life. I do not need or want a job that escapes my life & I reject the premise I need to become obsessed!