3 things you can do when you don't like a performer critic's writing

Ashton Deroy writes: To Lily:  I assure you my post was not geared at some agenda. Just the fact I didn’t enjoy your show. I didn’t want to write in my first post that you were mad at me from Kingston Pride because I didn’t think you remembered me. Now I am going to warn you although people are largely on your side, the optics of public perception are also bringing me some support. Like way more support than if you had just of ignored me. Consider your klout. You have influence & reach. I really don’t. 

About me & alcohol, I really don’t have a high tolerance. Also, I acknowledged my autism had nothing to do with how she behaved. I bring it up on my blog because I am indexed as an autistic blogger. That is why I brought it up online. It actually has nothing to do with her. The more I say autism, the more it helps my brand. “Autism, Autism, Autism.” , “ADHD ADHD ADHD.” It is actually funny. It is my condition I can mention it whenever I want. Also, it does have to do with why I was partially out of it at the bar. I am noise & light-sensitive. I used to wear those big soundproof headphones.

When you are a performer? It is hard to take criticism. People work very hard to perfect their art and style of engaging with the audience. Sometimes it can be upsetting when someone writes a review for you. Here are 3 things you can do to deal with a critic you don’t like: 

  1. Ignore the critic – Right now my articles are being commented on, I am getting website hits. Which means I am gaining exposure. This is good for me as someone who runs a blog. I don’t think this helps with what you are trying to do. I don’t have much of an audience, I am not on stage or in any pageant’s. I have a website. That I don’t even use paid advertising anymore. I just share posts. 
  2. Do not write a large reply – In Digital Marketing we learn that more words usually mean more attention. That would be great if you wanted attention to this. Since it is drama though, I am not sure you want to blow this up. It really only benefits the critic who wanted to just stir the pot to begin with. I really didn’t want to stir the pot. I just wanted to express disappointment. You overloaded on context though & now people can recognize this as an online rivalry where they can choose sides and again some people are choosing my side. Also here is what the reply did to my ratings. Ratings
  3.  Don’t provide context – Again this is in your best interest, not mine. I want people to know who I am from what I write. As your critic, you should want me to disappear in to unknown. Again what has happened by the large reply is that people really can acknowledge this as a rivalry now. Instead of just some loser who just writes reviews on their blog in a basement somewhere. 

Below is Lily Devine’s reply and a hyperlink to the original article. I don’t know, I am glad she gave me 5 minutes of recognition & attention. She really gave me a chance to expand my Klout on an article that really was not that popular before she wrote her reply. She is right, we did have drama on Kingston Pride. When I wrote my article I was not going to include that history, but she brought it up. Which in my opinion only helps in telling my story, which is really what this website is about. If you think I should write more entertainment reviews, send me an email on the form below: 

 

 


This was a reply to Dear Lilly DeVine 

Dear Ashton Deroy of ashtonderoy.com

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First I would like to thank you for once again going public to twist my words into your own agenda to further put a value on your socialism, by calling me many things I am not. To the point of even tagging me on Twitter, although you and your friends could have simply sent me a message directly to voice your concerns in an adult manner; it would have been dealt with months ago.

It was very enlightening to see your response to the last show you were at, from when you were just a minor sitting on an elected board position from when I was Miss Kingston Pride while screwing around with a board member old enough to be your grandfather to gain the grounds you ‘believed’ you had to do as you wish. Until you were removed from the board because of a rather distasteful video of me surfaced on your site so long ago doing exactly what you are doing now.

I would like to address the fact you were drunk enough that you were cut off after one drink, falling asleep at the front table where not only myself but other performers were performing. Even though I asked how many fingers I was holding up, making sure you weren’t passed out cold, I had also asked numerous times if you were ok and if you needed a cab called to get you home. As I did with your friends, who replied with ‘he’s ok, he’s just had too much to drink.’

Although your lack of understanding on what that could apply while sitting front row at a DRAG SHOW is of your own accord. HOWEVER, the fact of you being autistic had absolutely no bearing in the matter and NOT ONCE was brought up.

Your choice to blame me for your lack of involvement in anything LGBT2Q+ is a ploy to make your own wants and needs seem viable rather than leaving under your own accord, this is only appears to be an underlying issue you have with MANY LGBT2Q+ events over the years since our time on the pride board so long ago.

The fact of my personal story of being with ONE Asian man many years ago, was just that…a story turned into a joke at my own expense, due to him passing out drunk after showing me what could only be described as a grub sticking out of dirt.

Not that of an entire population, because IF your friend had also been sober enough to remember I had also stated that was not the case with all Asians because I have a very long list of favourites on my Pornhub account.

I am terribly sorry that your friend took offence, but yet again it here I sit that I have to explain myself to those who feel the need to smear my name, I did not know she was Asian in any capacity or anyone else there on what their nationality is or religion, political stance, etc.

As for my candid and unprofessional take on my once drag daughter, you see, unfortunately because of her attempts to destroy my name to make me into something I am not; she had also crossed the line because I am a single parent and she brought it to my home. To my business. And for that, my personal and business finances took a major blow in the Belleville area costing me much more than you can comprehend while sitting behind a keyboard creating a blog for your scholastic entertainment between friends.

If you truly believe Belleville is the ONLY place that suffers from major drug use, then my recommendation would be to crawl out of that cave you hide in and take a good look around. It’s a major issue EVERYWHERE, including mental health!

To say I don’t understand mental health is quite the slap in the face in regards to drug use, Ashton pot is not a drug in Canada!

Thanks for reading…but I do it better!

Oh and, my name is spelled LILY not LILLY

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