Dear incels with sanity. Here are the rules for leaving the losers club.

Leaving the loser club

Hey Incels, I may not be a straight male who is begging for sexual attention from females. However I am gay and I have had more conversations with women than a lot of straight guys. Today’s women can be intelligent, hard workers, funny & very deep thinkers. If you have not gotten to know this, if you still only know women as Stacys or Beckys. It is time to get off Reddit & take my advice on reaching for sexual and social maturity.

  1. Stop hanging around other incels online & in person– When I was in High School and I grew tired of not getting laid. I stopped hanging around losers who also do not get laid. Their off putting personalities hindered me & honestly I myself was annoyed of them anyways. In High School the other incel I hung around with was this little Communist named Brady who went on anti-american rants & didn’t talk about anything I was interested in anyways. Besides you guys are becoming radicals by feeding each other on the worst aspects of your insecurities.
  2. Abandon  your negative notions of feminism – For every fake feminist that thinks that it is okay to kick a man in the nuts. There are also feminists who refuse to make the movement about misandry & violence (misandry is the female misogynist that reduces all men to harmful and intimidating classifications.) .  Although honestly don’t go for bonus points by trying to be extra feminist…. However if you carry misogynist views like women owe you sex, you need to change them now! The views are delusional, harm your perceptions of women and make your ability to relate to them even more hindered. Women are more than Stacys and Beckys. Honestly if you ask them as well men trying to over simplify them is one of their biggest turn offs.
  3. Find a socially acceptable male or female to take you under their wing and train you socially – I am autistic and once in a while I need my social habits and dress attire changed. For me in High School  my coaches were my god Sister Steffanie, my friend Tegan. Then as an adult it has been my boyfriend Kaylib. Find someone who re-enforces positive social behaviors in clothing, mannerisms & boundaries. Hanging around friends who know how to get laid will help you get laid.
  4. Respect the friend zone – What is it with straight guys and going after their friends? Believe it or not having non-sexual female friends works in your favor! It makes you appear non-threatening and civil. When you screw up all of these friendships by trying to add your self-indulgent sexual edge you mess up a positive social environment you are making for yourself. Women tend to understand social culture better than men, so they are good to have on your side. My friend Alana has even been my wing-woman in the pursuit of gay men.
  5. Get rid of no shows – I call someone a “no show” when they make plans for a date and never show up. I have had this a lot! Honestly play them by the 3 strike rule. Chances are if they no show after 3 times they likely will never show up.

Listen if you feel you are ready to move forward in romantic or sexual relationships. However haven’t gotten anywhere yet… It is time to grow & change. The best thing I ever did with my time not getting laid was grow up. No one you want is going to award you with re-enforcement in the loser club.

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Talking about a family narcissist. Ashton Deroy

Codependency

Ashton Deroy Writes: Have you ever met someone so pig headed, they would let you criticize our public banking system before they let you criticize them for having, for example $8,000 in debt? That would be the case for me in dealing with one of my family’s narcissists. What is a narcissist?  

Narcissist

Some people think I qualify as a narcissist because I write blogs. However I don’t think the world runs around me & as I will point out to anyone who spends enough time with me, I hate myself. However I am talking about someone who is so truly delusional in narcissistic  behaviors, I could at times buy in to what they said. Although that has faded over time. Now I am mesmerized by the display of constantly unhealthy behavior, while keeping a healthy distance and doing some healthy introspection on top of it. 

Ever met a couple where one of the people in the couple has a sole purpose of making sure the other doesn’t crash the car well drunk? This reminds me of this narcissist’s girlfriend or sometimes the “enabler”.  The thin line of co-existence & codependency is met by the fact he has interfered with her ability to keep a job, take care of her daughter & function. Meanwhile when she had a job and he didn’t he have no problem asking her for the money for weed. I repeat, “enabler”. I said, I use them to introspect and this is partially why I don’t want my boyfriend to buy me weed. 

How to distance yourself from the narcissist? 

  • Lie– When they call? Say you have stuff to do.
  • Tell Harsh truths- Just as effective as lying because when the narcissist has taken too big a blow on their ego they will back off. (If they are not violent)
  •  Don’t let them control the schedule– They always want to suck you back in to their world. Always state why you are busy or indifferent to their plans. 

I use all of these tips to deal with the family narcissist because getting sucked in is not an option. 

Three things we can’t really say to this family narcissist: 

  • You need a job – You are behind on your bills and can’t afford food half the time. Again you have $8,000 in debt. 
  • Go get medical help – You have serious mental health and addictions issues. Yet you do not address them 
  • Treat your mother & sister with respect – How is it you have slut shamed one & called the other a whore?

Anyways I saw this narcissist last night in Stirling Ontario & as of now at Loyalist College. I am glad it is over. 

 

Check out the Narcissist’s Dilemma written by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. Published October 12th 2011. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201110/the-narcissists-dilemma-they-can-dish-it-out

Minors and Technology. Why I favor monitoring?

Minors and technology

Ashton Deroy Writes: I used to be one of the most Libertarian pro-tech people you would ever meet. I thought kids needed to learn computer proficiency fast as possible, schools needed to bend the curriculum to be more computer & mobile oriented and lastly we need to make sure all kids have access to a computer. I don’t think think that anymore… My views have changed with the exposure of people legally recognized as minors exposure to sex apps, drug culture & child predators. 

The first reason my views began changing was because of something that happened on GrindR in 2015. I had realized someone I was talking to was 16 years of age and they were on an app whose primary purpose was trolling for sex. Well I suppose I was on Plenty Of Fish doing the exact same thing at 17. It still worries me because Plenty Of Fish was like a casual dating site & GrindR was more like a “f*** me in a bathroom stall kind of place.” I encouraged the kid to leave the site as it wasn’t safe for them to use. This was when my opinion first began changing and it only gets worse. Someone really should be looking at their teenager’s phone and saying, “What is Grindr?” Or they should know, because it clearly isn’t educational.

The second part that began shifting my brain on children needing monitoring on technology happened in 2015 as well. My younger cousin used a phrase for smoking weed everyday (SWED) .  To my knowledge this kid has never even seen me & my brother smoke weed. However he had exposure to YouTube and it was enough for him to use the expression. Frig I’d rather kids imitate Sponge Bob than Imitate stoners! Which made me only further change my opinion on kids and tech.  If you don’t smoke weed around your kids. Why do you expose them to the adult culture of it?

The last part that really bugs me is the mix of child predators & even under aged nudity you are seeing online. FYI Instagram moderators could really use to clean things up! I am pretty sure kids are being exploited on Instagram and some of them getting paid for it via apps such as Only Fans. This kind of stuff just really grosses me out…  Parents should really be catching & preventing these things from happening. 

Just in my opinion I am getting to a point now where I am pro-monitoring minors on the internet. What we are seeing now? Is getting a bit gross. Kids are being exposed to an over sexualized culture, with drugs & predators. Unfortunately it hard to monitor these things with mobile media & computers. However I think it is necessary. 


About the writer 

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Ashton Deroy is a Business student at Loyalist College & a modest donor to the Liberal Party of Canada. In the past he has been criticized as an arm chair activist & applauded as a pro-marijuana advocate. They are a graduate of Loyalist’s Advertising program & have a graduate certificate from St. Lawrence college in Digital Marketing. 

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3 Reasons Canada’s political system won’t maintain peace forever.

Left wings vs right wings

Ashton Deroy Writes: It is in my opinion that Canada’s democracy will not keep the peace forever. All civilizations eventually break down & all systems of government eventually fail. To quote Sean Illing “The elites have failed. These so-called liberal democratic institutions have failed. My vote has no influence on public policy. Why should I give a damn about preserving this system?” 

My Dad and his partner are non-voters. It is not hard to see why? I think at this time it has to be one of the most peaceful stances to take. Democracy is already like a verbal war that is to take place every time there is an election. The after math is protests, complaining & social smear tactics designed to scare swing voters to the other side. 

Why do I think the system is going to have a violent breakdown? No system breaks without stress & our system has a lot of it. From the fact that climate change is said to be happening much faster in Canada, to the ethical integrity being questioned by our current prime minister & lastly the down turn of public political discussion

Climate change is now becoming the issue that needs addressing in Canada. The Conservative response was recorded however & all they had to say was “Carbon Tax = Evil.” Liberals have begun to try & create change with taxation. I actually wrote MP Neil Ellis in the prior blog  . In regards to protecting our natural environment and this was his response.

Neil Ellis

What incites violence about this issue though? Well if you are a member of Generation X or a Millennial you might just feel that the older generations of Conservatives really screwed up your planet. Knowing that this will cost you your quality of life, air & drinking water. You might just be pissed off enough to punch a Conservative in the face! 

That is okay though because as much as young people & lefties might want to punch a Conservative. I am pretty sure the current right wing population is a mix of capitalists, white nationalists & powerful people who want to punch Liberals to. In the MSN article above it says “Canada’s top public servant says he is worried someone will be assassinated during the coming federal election campaign given the disturbing tenor of recent public discussion.” It is true, Trudeau is being described as a traitor and has long been described as a figure radical conservatives have wanted to kill. 

Now that I have described in detail the hatred that exists between two major political ideologies lets discuss social smear. Today a discussion in Politics between a left winger & right winger is really more like a chance to spew propaganda to recruit support. We know if we win over the swing voters, we have a better chance at getting a government that best represents our class of society. We are fighting in discussions & the objective of the fight is to gain temporary support of our peers. In some countries coercion is a classic way of winning the fight. 

“A number of citizens, whether amounting to a majority or a minority of the whole, who are united and actuated by some common impulse of passion, or of interest, adversed to the rights of other citizens, or to the permanent and aggregate interests of the community.” James Madison 

It just doesn’t seem like this democracy can keep the peace forever. A check mark in a box does nothing to keep society standing. In my political studies class I learned Jean Jacques rousseau called the process of voting consenting to the social contract of an election. I’d argue more that people are consenting to being apart of a certain tribe & where there are separate tribes there is war! This system can not & will not last forever because it really does nothing to promote co-existence, take care of people & promote a sustainable living model. Voting is a division, political parties are tribes & democracy is a war awaiting violence.

My idea to clean up Quinte West water & natural environments.

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Taxing large plastic contributors to pay for waste removal from our water & parks.

In August of 2018, I began posting on my Instagram and personal blog about an issue Quinte West had in regards to waste getting in to our natural water by Centennial Park. It has since been one year since I have tried bringing this to to the attention of the public & Mayor Harrison. Now we are writing this letter to an MP to create some kind of community responsibility in regards to the destruction of our waters. It is my belief that we need to either work towards banning plastics & fast food containers that are not biodegradable. What I want to achieve? I want to get our town to fund waste removal from the natural waters & surrounding areas.

Consumers of convenience store foods & fast food are some of the least Eco-friendly consumers on the planet. Every year massive amounts of containers, packaging and bottles are found destroying our natural habitats & water. In Quinte West I have photographed evidence of damage to our environment near centennial park, & in our Bay with the culprits being common convenience goods. I have also provided picture evidence to show that Quinte West’s volunteer waste removal efforts are not even close to enough aide. Which proves require a government collaborated executions to pay for waste removal efforts.

It is widely understood online that our town hosts some of the most wasteful industrial companies in plastics doing business in Quinte West. such as Nestle, other commonly high waste contributors such as Coca-Cola, Pepsi-Co & Metro Inc all sell goods within in Quinte West. I believe even if it requires creating a government paid execution for waste removals in public and natural attraction areas in Quinte West to try to reduce damage on our ecosystem. This is where we create  job removing unnatural waste from environments where it can impact fish & mammals.

Reference: https://www.conservationcouncil.ca/en/most-plastic-waste-in-canada-leads-back-to-these-5-companies/

I want to conclude saying we need to do something to impact our damage to our ecosystem. I think the answer is to create jobs removing waste from areas where it can impact the natural environment. I am sure we can contribute to paying for these jobs by creating a tax on the output of plastics from these companies. If we do this next year we can save our environment for the future.

Contact our MP at: neil.ellis@parl.gc.ca . Ask him to take action to maintain Quinte West waters.

3 issues with Belleville public transit.

3 Issues with Belleville Public Transit.pngTrenton & Belleville Ontario are growing and are set to grow more with tourism. However one of the biggest issues I have brought up to the Bay of Quinte in the expansion is the lacking infrastructure for public transit. We have a lacking transit system that does not work, but we are still way too ready to tell people to rely on their livelihoods with a hit or miss bus. It is ridiculous.

Here are three clear problems with the Belleville Transit system.

  1. One way transit system– I get home from school faster than I get to school. Why is this? It is because my home comes after the college on the bus route. Meaning instead of the bus taking me the simple 5 K from my nearest stop to college. I am doing the entire trip back to the terminal before I can even get to the college.
  2. 1 hour until your next bus – If I miss a bus at 10 minutes after 7. I have to wait until 8:10pm just to be able to get home 5k in the cold
  3. It is legitimately faster to walk at times- For example if I just missed 12:10pm bus and I needed to get home in an hour. It would be faster for me to walk home then it would be to wait for the next bus to arrive.

Other issues with Belleville Public Transit

  1. No full functioning nightlife service– If we want to reduce impaired driving it is vital we have an ongoing service for popular pub nights. Neglecting that we need not think we have enough alternatives to prevent drunk driving.
  2. Lousy weekend service – Saturday & Sunday really should have full day bus service. They do not… I think we should fix that because if Belleville is going to handle tourism. They are going to need adequate bus systems.
  3. Over filled bus – We need to add more buses on routes like the #7. Just because right now people are close to sitting on the roof of the bus at this point. How do we fix this? Add another bus during peek use times. This is large part of why I avoid the bus at 8:00am , 12:00pm and 6:00pm because they are crowded bus times.
  4. Accessibility issues – The fact is the bus creates accessibility to work, education and broad transportation is violated. In the fact we don’t have a more functional bus service. Why don’t we expect disabled people to get anywhere past 8:00pm on a Sunday?

 

Capsim Review

Capsim

Ashton Deroy Writes: This is Capsim, a software that simulates running a mid-corp sensor company. It is simply “magical”. Magic 

“That is what I would like to write about my review of this software.” Unfortunately my review will be much more bleak. For starters I don’t understand the software, I do not feel like I am simulating a business experience and instructions are not quite clear. 

To start, I do not understand Capsim. Do you understand this report? Granted the little context I have provided is just about what I have had going in to this. Reports

I am pretty sure there are vital things I am missing to be able to participate in this simulator. The fact that other 4th semester Business students don’t understand it either leads me to believe you need some kind of beautiful mind to play this simulation. 

I do not feel like I am simulating an authentic business experience. There should be a lot more socializing and training before I just start messing with the entire company’s finances. All I am doing is playing with a spreadsheet. That is my honest opinion of Capsim, it is an overly complicated spreadsheet. We could do this all on Excel and save students the $64!

This is the first video you will get when you enter Capsim. The simulation is you selling sensors against other players. We have to manage and coordinate 4 different departments. Which again is just the users playing with numbers on a spreadsheet. 

My actual review is this, unless business is just entering random numbers on a spread sheet. This simulation is not enough! There is a certain amount of communications, advertising, sales & customer service involved in running a company that this simulation just will not touch on enough. I feel like I am not sure what this simulation prepares me for, which makes me think I have so little invested in how well I do in this class.

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Comments on the failed Liberty Brothers project.

Ashton Deroy in the Loyalist College cafeteria

Ashton Deroy Writes: The tail of my demise as a blogger and pod-caster has been greatly under emphasized. A lot has happened over the past two years to really make me invest less time in WordPress than I would have liked. First of all I spent the last two years living in a nut job’s house. Her name is Jinny Sung, she likes communism, Progressive Conservatives and bossing around her college tenants. I lived with that idiot. Also I did something I my friend Peter told me not to do, I got in work relationships with idiots because yes plenty of us are related to them.

Specifically I wanted to talk about my Liberty Brothers Partnership. You see back before I realized he was fighting off a mental breakdown, I joined up with Matt on a number of blogging projects. He also inspired us to create Bongs-R-Us which was a blog where I talked about medical marijuana. We also sold cannabis accessories and T-Shirts. 

What are my comments of what I liked about the Liberty Brothers project? At the time I liked the idea of Matt & I being strong independent Libertarians. We could talk about the deficit I was learning about in economics and criticize our municipal government’s spending. For those who don’t know, Quinte West’s tourism spends were a hole from which no money would return until recently. With Canada’s Cannabis legalization the projection says tourism will increase in in Quinte West & Bay of Quinte. 

What was taking me out of it? I can’t let any family take the full blame for project failure or loss of focus in the past year. Although Matt getting motivated to do a single podcast would have been nice. It was not their fault entirely. Honestly my bubble has burst that social media advertising is not the income multiplier you might think it is. Followed by the fact I am happier letting my life be about my job at 10 Fitness and spending time with my boyfriend.

Liberty Brothers though was supposed to be this big promising blog though. We were going to write pro-Libertarian articles and do a podcast. What changed my mind? My step brother has no political attention span. He had to hop to the next new craze The People’s Party of Canada. At this point I went back to the party I most identified with… 

Now what do I do? I am living in Belleville Ontario now and seeking new website publishing and digital advertising projects. I am Ashton Deroy and I am hoping to build my name as a descent writer, marketer or voice. At this time I guess I am just searching for direction and purpose again.

To re-affirm my original political identity. I made my donation and got back to work in the party that is best suited to make a difference in Canada for the positive. Like the Liberals have made positive differences in gender politics, lgbtq causes & international relationships.   I mean the Liberal Party of Canada & Justin Trudeau. As much as it was cool to check out niche politics, we all know the adults pick real political parties with a chance of getting majority seats. 

 

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3 horrible truths of the broke entrepreneur

Dedicated to: Loyalist College Students.

From: Ashton Deroy, Failed Web design Entrepreneur. 

Intro: You should not become an Entrepreneur. Let us face it the sad truth is you went to Loyalist College because you had no idea what to do for your seven-year plan. Chances are you still don’t have a seven-year plan. Why would you start risking your own time & money here? Here are 3 reasons not to be an Entrepreneur. Most successful mid-corps were started/maintained by a family with an already existing body of wealth. I learned this working for Greenwich Associates a financial research & consulting firm where I interviewed CEOs, CFOs, and Presidents of mid-corp organizations.

  1. You are not your own boss – It is not fun to say but someone usually has leverage in business & it often is not the person selling products or services. It can be your supply chain people, your bill collectors, the people you applied for a grant with or even your customers. Ever worked in a call center? Those are communications jobs designed to manage B2C & B2B relationships. Those jobs suck… Why would you want to do that 16 hours a day instead of 10 hours a day for less money?
  2. Being broke – Most entrepreneurs need to borrow & use their own capital to even get to the market but there are no guarantees. Our markets are saturated with products & services as well as substitutes that eliminate opportunities. In the case of my business, a lot of professional communications jobs are eliminated by self-service digital marketing services. This includes logo generators, Kijiji & Facebook.
  3. Hating what you do – Multiple times I have quit my digital marketing business. Even after gaining momentum and gaining contacts. You can fall down 100 times & it does become discouraging. I am a natural sales person but it doesn’t mean rejection doesn’t slow me down. Rejection slows down everyone. 

Listen if you are a Business student in college. You are probably being given a lot of hype for starting your own company. Don’t fall for it! Be an opportunist, not a dead-set entrepreneur. Here is a cliche I love, “Work smarter, not harder.” If working smart means a 9-5 with a pension and a pain in the a** boss. That is fine. There is no shame in being someone’s b****! 

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