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Project Title: Bringing Compassion & Cultural Understanding to Public Transgender Health Care. Re: Transgender Mtf Youth and the Sex Industry: Determinants and Risks

Bringing Compassion & cultural Understanding to Public Transgender Health Care

Rudan Abstract

Ashton Deroy Writes:  As usual my ex Christopher Rudan has written a summary on an issue regarding Male to Female you and the sex industry. He has written this in a way that only a Observational Psychologist without any practical education on executing fixes would. This may be something consistent with his character as a Nihilist & atheist who graduated Queen’s University without an ounce of understanding for a practical education in understanding problems & then executing solutions. Since I am a Business Diploma graduate with a diploma in Communications and I do side research in creating a functional Socialist society. I will suggest practical solutions to the problem described in Christopher’s Published abstract. I will do this in the format of a proposal rather than the format of another pointless psychology paper. As someone whose education actually focused on Community Development and Sustainability I can propose solutions to said problems.

Project Title: Bringing Compassion & Cultural Understanding to Public Transgender Health Care.

Project description:

I want to create reading materials such as pamphlets and online accessible reading materials to increase educational awareness for Transgender sex workers. We want to expand publicly accessible sexual health clinics much like you see with the health clinic in Quinte West called Belleville Quinte West Community Health Centre. Also we want to circulate positive Transgender healthcare communication information & if possible resources to expand accessibility to transition in Canada.  We also want to distribute information directed at sex workers to encourage safe sex practices for prevention of the spread of Sexual infections & disease.

Tone: We want to change the communicative tone in materials to have a more inclusive & understanding tone while using a message that prevents the spread of contagious disease. We also want to increase the competence of healthcare professionals while aiding with the Transgender Community as a whole. This may involve sharing with them details about Transgender Social culture, health facts on best use for hormone replacement therapy & information on how Transgender women get caught in the world of sex work. Also as important is teaching Transgender women how to get out of the world of Sex work.

Mediums: Social media, Information Pamphlets, Educational speakers, Purchasing Sexuality and gender Study papers & a Website information hub.

Proposed first locations: Quinte West Ontario , Kingston Ontario & Belleville Ontario.

Duration: I would ask for a 2 year commitment to funding this as a community development project.

Project Cost:  $25,000 , Also consider hiring a project administrator for $30,000 per year salary.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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3 red flags you will see with a cheater

3 red flags you will see with a cheater

Ashton Deroy Writes:

This is a conversational blog. Not a blog of authority or academic article. 

Are you codependent? I am, plain & simple. Let me re-phrase. Do you over rely on your partner even if they are sick, mentally ill or an addict? That is co-dependence. Too many people with this psychological issue don’t understand what is going wrong with them. It  keeps them from leaving a partner who cheats, hurts them & mistreats them. I was codependent and I still can over rely on times towards the wrong friends. 

One of the things I am seeing a lot of on #Codependence on Instagram is people complaining about cheaters. They tend to say stuff like cheaters cheat to hurt you, cheaters are sociopaths and cheaters are basically scum of the earth! Okay stop, listen if cheating has been a form of consistent abuse you experience. I am not saying you deserve it. I am just saying you always knew it was there on some level! Regular people don’t get cheated on as a lifestyle! People who overly cling to their love interests, practice a lack of boundaries & are attracted to narcissists are naturally going to attract cheaters. You also see it to people who are magnets to dysfunctional relationships because of a lack of mental health resources.  Here are 3 red flags to spot a cheater & avoid them if that is what you choose.  

  1. Cheaters have no boundaries – I have experienced my first boyfriend hitting on my brother. I’ve seen the same kinds of people who cheat also do stuff like get minors overly intoxicated. Cheaters sometimes are exactly what we say, people of low moral character. If you are well read & have a strong moral character. This is something you should be able to pick up on. It is one thing when a girl dates a fuckboy or a boy dates a party girl. It is another thing when people are telling them “That is their entire identity” but the victim of cheating refuses to listen or uses denial. By the way if you use denial to view your fuckboy or party girl in a better light. You are not an innocent victim! You literally should of picked up on this the first time your friends told you. 
  2. Cheaters are not programmed for monogamy – In this case I do not blame the cheater as much. When someone asks for an open relationship? Clearly monogamy is not going to be a long term solution for this person. This doesn’t mean you can’t still have a healthy relationship. However if you say no but continue to try to posses your partner exclusively and then they still go forward & cheat. I really do blame the person cheated on. On some level in this scenario the cheater is taking responsibility for themselves while trying to maintain the relationship. The person who says no to the open relationship is experiencing denial and using a closed mind. Not using any foresight whatsoever. This was a scenario of forced monogamy. You said no to the relationship that would work better for this person & kept them in a relationship that best benefited you. Recommended reading, Zhana Vrangalova Ph.D. asks are people in open relationships happier? 
  3. Cheaters often use romantic rejection & withdrawn affection as weapons for control – This is something I kind of blame the person cheated on for. Your romantic partner rejected you in the very beginning. All it made you do was want to chase them harder! It isn’t romantic it is creepy, obsessive and you are saying I am open to be controlled and victimized. Not only that but the heavy pursuit of the desired mate whom rejected you is an attempt at pushing your monogamy on them. It is time to withdraw your pursuit of someone when they reject you. That is just the sane thing to do! When a partner withdraws affection? You don’t keep the relationship going, you try to use your time to resolve it and if it can’t be done. You have to move on. 

Listen I honestly do not blame cheaters for everything because it is not all honestly their fault. Cheaters attract codependent, clingy and even unhealthy partners. Sometimes cheaters get together with people who were more interested in them than the other way around. Cheaters pleas for open relationships and or loosened relationships often go unheard. Lastly cheaters tell you early on with rejection this isn’t going to work. Whether the initial rejection is slight or direct, take it as a sign and move on. 

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